Dating generation x
Forget love at first sight, we could potentially have love at first copulation.When did sex become so casual, or more importantly, why is this survey making me think I’m a prude?To the casual observer, casual sex may seem like the ultimate end game for many of the 64 million Millennials on the make who use dating apps or websites in search of Mister or Miss Right Now.But assuming that Gen Y has cornered the market on promiscuity and commitment-phobia is a missed connection on how the rules of attraction have changed in the age of Tinder and OKCupid. The prospect of talking with John Cusack was almost as exciting at 40 as it would have been as a teen. Mother Jones: I’ve got a cold, so if I start sneezing, just know that the 16-year-old on the inside is dying of embarrassment. MJ: Yeah, I’ve been watching you since then; we’re basically the same age. And probably something about being an artist, feeling like you’re not a part of the pack. JC: I don’t think people knew that the Bush agenda was going to be as radical as it was in implementing the Milton Friedman playbook of radical privatization—what Naomi Klein calls “disaster capitalism.” As Iraq was still on fire, literally, Paul Bremer rode in, dressed like my character in his Brooks Brothers suit with his military boots, the uniform of the disaster capitalist.After all, he has embodied every phase of angst of those of us who grew up in the ’80s, from teen dating dilemmas, to horrific high school reunions, to making lifetime commitments (which he hasn’t, at least publicly). But this film—in which his character fixes problems for a Halliburtonlike company that runs the “first war ever to be 100% outsourced”—is much darker, angrier, and so jam-packed with obscure references to the war on terror, venal corporate-branding strategies, and private military contractors that even this editor of devotee could easily make one a deadly annoying jerk, and I worried he’d shatter expectations 25 years in the making. He seems just as smart, and smart-assed, as the characters he plays. Speaking of which: Perhaps more than any actor, you symbolize the angst and ambivalence of our generation, Generation X. There’s also some element of coming of age during the Reagan administration, which everybody has painted as some glorious time in America, but I remember as being a very, very dark time. It was a messianic fantasy where Iraq was going to be a free-market utopia.When it comes to dating and love, Millennials often (undeservedly) get a bad rap from the olds for not being serious enough about their romantic pursuits.
The lies and the hypocrisy are so savage that your eyes start to water.Everyone is drinking, peering into their screens and swiping on the faces of strangers they may have sex with later that evening. “Ew, this guy has Dad bod,” a young woman says of a potential match, swiping left.Her friends smirk, not looking up.“Tinder sucks,” they say. At a booth in the back, three handsome twentysomething guys in button-downs are having beers.Which means my straddling of this gap between generations just got more tedious. What happened to dinner and a movie, or at the very least coffee?What happened to waiting for three months to forge an emotional connection before sullying the whole thing up with your sheet moves?